Passion Vs. Purpose...What's the Difference?


The truth of the matter is, our purpose has been implanted in us before the foundation of the world, before we were conceived and has always been inside of us. We hear a lot that we need not search for our purpose because our purpose is already inside of us. Yes our purpose is already inside of us, but many still wander around clueless as to what their purpose is and how to tap into their inner selves to bring it out. I believe strongly, that there is discovery that must take place, then an unlocking to truly gain knowledge and understanding of what we are purposed to do.

As women ordained by God, collectively, our ultimate purpose for being created is to worship our Creator, to be help mates and to draw others close to God for the uplifting and building of His Kingdom.

However, individually, God has created us each with a unique plan, a unique purpose, a unique calling. And with that calling, He places certain burdens, visions and passions within our spirits to do – many believe those things are compiled together to reveal our purpose, but they are actually tools to help us carry out our purpose. They themselves are not our purpose. 

1. What is Purpose?

·         The definition of purpose is “the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.  An intended or desired result; end; aim; or goal.

2. What are Passions?

·         Passions are the hobbies, talents and interests that are tools and vehicles to help us carry out our purpose.

For example, my purpose is to motivate, inspire and empower women and girls for the Kingdom of God. I do this by utilizing my passions which are teaching and content creation (such as workbooks, worksheets, blogging, etc.) that aid my teachings. Those are my passions.

My passion for teaching and content creation are now vehicles I use to execute my purpose.

3.    What it to “Discover” your purpose?

First things first what does the word discover mean? 

·         To discover is to see, get knowledge of, learn of, find, or find out;
·         To gain insight or knowledge of
·         To notice or realize

So to discover your purpose is not to negate the fact that it’s already inside of you, it’s to gain insight or knowledge of your purpose and to realize and identify that what you are meant to do, it’s what you are meant to do, because we can very well confuse my gifts and passions for our purpose.

One way to separate your passions from your purpose is to ask yourself these questions:

These questions should help you to identify passions from deep within you. But they will not reveal your purpose. Ultimately, to discover our purpose, we all have to communicate with the One who created us in the first place. It’s not about our dreams and chasing after what we see and want. Its strictly God’s purpose and will for you that matters. If you truly love God, spend time with Him and fashion your life after Him, He will not only REVEAL his purpose for your life, but you will see how all of your gifts and deepest passions fit right in to the ultimate Will of God for your life.

PURPOSE | Understanding Your Strengths


Strengths. We all have them. They vary from person to person - some may have many, some may possess a few - but we all have them and more than one of them. When trying to discover your purpose in life, one should consider their strengths because by understanding your strongest attributes, you are one step closer to the understanding of why God made you and what He has sent you here to do.

Our strengths are directly linked to our purpose. They allow us to be at the top of our game, and to do what we are meant to do exceptionally well. Strengths are a major part of what makes us tick, what brings out the best out of us. Unfortunately, most people focus on their weaknesses and why they are not good at what the next person is good at instead of focusing on what they do well. If we focus on a weakness, we should try to develop it not for the mere desire to make it a strength, but to acknowledge that we are not perfect, but ever growing and evolving.

So What Are Strengths?

Strengths are a combination of gifts that we are born with and talents, skills and abilities we possess, that developed over time.

Gifts: Your gifts are God given assets that when combined with passion bring about an authentic uniqueness that cannot be duplicated or imitated to perfection. Gifts derive from the ability to do something especially well with no formal training, education, or practice that can be done well repeatedly. It’s as simple as inhaling and exhaling, they come to us naturally so they repeatedly help us to achieve. Why is that? Because gifts are planted within us by God our Creator. He imparts in us the capability to do particular things that should be impossible to do without formal training.

Talents: Talents are regularly confused with gifts. We are born with both gifts and talents, however the difference with talents are they have to be practiced and mastered. We do these very well too, but to keep doing them well, we must practice and improve on them. Talents take time to mature from one stage to another and when combined with our gifts can help us to achieve in multiple areas.

Skills & Abilities: Just like talents, skills & abilities are acquired over time and developed. Difference is, we were not born with skills and abilities, but after we take interest in something and after much studying and practice, we learned to master them. They are knowledge and expertise in something that we didn’t already know, but once we are dedicated to learn it, we become better at. The learning of skills and abilities mostly derive from textbook learning, training, life experiences, etc.

For all of my visual learners, here is a chart that’ll best explain the differences:

As you develop and mature by building on your greatest gifts, talents, skill and abilities you will begin to also develop passions for them. That’s where purpose comes in. We have not been given these strengths or acquired these strengths to sit on, but each of us have a purpose in which every strength can be utilized. The goal is to understand our strengths, identify what they are and to use them to fulfill our purpose.

I hope this post brings about some clarity of the difference between all of your different strengths.
Are you ready to stop searching high and low trying to decide which gift, talent or skill you should focus on when trying to discovery your purpose? As we know, our gifts, talents, skill and abilities play a major role in our life's purpose. Let me help you in unfolding these important God-given assets by helping you to, "Connect the Dots of Purpose."

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Until then my friends, Love & Blessings

MOTHERHOOD: Motherhood Is A God Given Gift


A woman lies down on a sterile hospital bed as she awaits the birth of her daughter. A mixture of fear, excitement, and fatigue show on her face as she tries to get some sleep. You may be wondering why I’m describing this woman. Well, infants are the closest we can get to touching heaven itself. God created mothers for the pure purpose of rearing the souls that are meant to pass through this life to return to him. Therefore, women play the most precious roles in the plan of salvation. However, women do not need to give birth to succeed in this plan. Aunts, sisters, Godmothers, teachers, and every compassionate woman, plays a part in guiding children into righteous adulthood.

Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. -Proverbs 22:6

Now I have a confession to make: I do not have a child, nor have I ever been pregnant, but I strongly believe in God’s plan. I feel joy and love when I think of God’s trust in my abilities to nurture and love his children. I have the opportunity to bring a precious soul into this world and give it a body. A body is essential if we are to return to God. Yet, the beauty of God’s plan is that I do not need to succeed in giving birth to be a mother. I can be a foster parent, I can adopt, or I can be like any of the women previously listed.

Lo, children are a heritage of the Lord; And the fruit of the womb is his reward. - Psalm 127:3

Still, some of you may be thinking:

If this is a gift from God then why can’t I conceive a child or why am I plagued with miscarriage after miscarriage?

First of all, I do not know the right answer and I cannot begin to understand your agony, but what I do know is that God keeps his promises and I personally believe that any child lost before birth or after birth is up in heaven awaiting your arrival. Some souls just need less time on earth than others to achieve their purpose here and I promise that the pain of this life will be washed away with the bliss of the next. And for those of you that cannot conceive at all, I am sorry that this is something you must bear.

God may have called on you to mother and love the children in your community and your life and this calling is one of the most virtuous ones you can be given because you are sharing the kind of love that can multiply and touch thousands of lives.  

And so, I leave you with this question: How can I better utilize God’s gift of motherhood into my life? 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for peace and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope. - Jeremiah 29:11

FAITH & INSPIRATION | Do Not Let Yourself Be Spiritually Killed


Today I stood on a balcony and watched people hurry to their destinations. Cars were bustling and rushing with the sound of sirens in the distance. In a generation of instant gratification, people no longer sit and enjoy the world around them. They are more obsessed with the now rather than the blessings they could get later. This creates a problem because God has the habit of humbling us in our darkest hours. He guides us through our trials and brings us to happier times where we can clearly see the blessings in our life. If we are too distracted, then we cannot feel his hand in our life. As well, if we do not have the capacity for patience, then we will give up on God before he has the chance to show us his love. We cannot allow ourselves to be spiritually killed by a hasty world. Rather, let’s be in the world, but not of the world.

For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. –Romans 8:6 

Spiritual death happens slowly. First, you forget to pray or read your scriptures. Then, it becomes a habit until it is intentional and you no longer see a place for God in your life. The longer you go on this path, the harder it is for you to come back or want to come back to God. This path is wide and filled with bright lights and amusements that bring pleasure for the moment, but never the kind of happiness that can last. In all honestly, this path brings more sadness than anything else. But there is a second path. The second path is straight as well as narrow. This is the path we must stay on to keep our faith in God. On this path, distractions do not exist because God is the only purpose for why we keep moving forward.

I implore you to pick the second path. Do not be lost in the wilderness, but rather be found in the favor of God.

For you were formerly darkness, but now you are light in the Lord; walk as children of light. 
–Ephesians 5:8

FASHION & STYLE | The Capsule Wardrobe


Hey loves! I hope everyone is having a great summer so far! Today, I want to share with you guys a little something different. I wanted to get into creating a capsule wardrobe. A capsule wardrobe is a wardrobe where you have the basics such as pants, skirts etc. and you build on to that wardrobe based on the season. For example, we are in summer so your capsule wardrobe can consist of 2 pants, pair of slacks, and one dress. So when you add to it for summer, you add pieces such as a maxi dress, a midi skirt, and maybe a sleeveless top or two. Here is an example of a summer capsule wardrobe.

The idea of a capsule wardrobe is to have less but get the most out of what you have. For instance, less is more right? So you cut your wardrobe down to the very basics and add your extra pieces to it and just switch it out based on the season. This doesn't have to be expensive either. You can have a capsule wardrobe for fall and winter together and for summer and spring together. You can easily transition fall to winter as well as spring to summer. Having a capsule wardrobe definitely has a lot of perks. If you are business woman this will be wonderful for you!

When you travel you don't even have to take much. If you are fashionista, throw in a few statement pieces and your good to go. I am currently working on my capsule wardrobe right now and I am having a lot of fun. It definitely helps you spring clean and get rid of items you do not wear.

I hope that this was very insightful and informative. Please leave a comment down below what will your capsule wardrobe consist of.

Be blessed,

ENTREPRENEURSHIP | 3 Tips on Staying Focused


Have you started off strong then veer off course?  Or you try to start a project or business then it becomes harder of what you thought and you just give up?  Or you are a parent, like myself, and try to focus on the task at hand but then the kiddos need your attention and you forget what you were trying to do?   If you are anything like me then I know that it has happen more times than you cared to think.  I have some tips on staying focus on each task that you try to achieve during the day.

1. The night before get organized
Have you always noticed that once everyone is in bed, the dog is sleeping, and the house is quiet, that is when you become more focus?  That is also the perfect time to organize your work space and make a list. I find it more productive to straighten up your work space at the end of the day so when you get up in the morning, everything is already for you to start off your day.  Making a list is a great way of keeping you on task and focus.  Try to make a list at the beginning of the week of everything that you want to accomplish that week.  Then take that weekly list and break it down to a daily list, always making your most difficult task first or at the beginning of the week, so by the end of the week when you are tired and less focus, those task are more manageable to perform and will make you feel more accomplished.

2. Clear all unnecessary distraction
Distractions are only a barrier to keep anyone from accomplishing their dreams or tasks which will results in procrastination.  And we do not want to do that!  Now days, the number one distraction is our phones, along with video games, television, etc. and you need to decide if what you really want to focus on is more important than these.  My biggest focus stealer is social media site; there is a time and place for them but only when you carve out the appropriate time.  So put away your phone because by doing that, you have won half the battle.

3. Schedule breaks
You are probably thinking, taking breaks will keep me focus and I will accomplish my daily goals?  And the answer is Yes.  Our brain is a muscle that needs to rest and recharge.  Try to schedule every hour just a few minutes to do some light stretching, take a seat & close your eyes, or go to the bathroom.  You will be surprise how many ideas that will just appear out of nowhere and you will come back with a more focused mind and new insights.

Getting organized, clearing unnecessary distractions, and scheduling breaks can really help you to stay focus on any aspect of your life and you will start noticing that you are getting a lot done during your day and week.  Then at no time, your dreams are coming

Believe in Your Magic,

MOTIVATION | Unlock Your Hidden Gems


Have you ever had the tendency to do something different, but were afraid too. Does your family and friends tell you that you are great at something like making candles, designing websites, or what it is about you that people just love? Have you ever asked yourself what makes me so good at this and that….have you ever took a step out on faith and went for it. Don’t sell yourself short anymore, it is time to go for the gusto. Are you creative? Are you an awesome public speaker? Are you a great planning events? Do you write well? Then you realized you never took the time to focus on your craft? Now is time to do it. It’s time for you to Unlock Your Hidden Gems, yes you….

When you unlock your passion, you open your world up to your gifts. It’s like opening a present and the way your face lights up when you decorate your place for the holidays. Your family walks in with amazement. You are just overjoyed. I know a lot of times we tend not to focus on our gifts because we are so busy with our regular everyday jobs or careers. We are told that our gifts or something we are passionate about will not make us any financial gain. That is just not true. Sometimes we have to take a stand and go for it. I use to be afraid of lot of things that I am good at like writing. I had a fear of failure. Sometimes we allow fear to block our true blessings.

Here is a few tips to help you unleash your hidden gems. 

1. Find out what you are absolutely good at doing or passionate about and focus on your craft.

2. Research your gems and find out if it is a hot on the market. You never know if the business is booming in your craft.

3. After careful thought and review, start a business in your name or think of something creative.

4. Find out if want this to be a side or full time business. Some of us have great secure jobs that pay all our bills. Starting a business can be a little challenging.

5. Ask yourself those hard questions. Do I really want to make money doing the things I love or is this just a hobby. This question will determine if you will be a success in it. If this is just a hobby there is no need to complain when everyone asked to use your services.

Now that you have unlocked your hidden gems. How do you feel? Doesn’t it feel good to share your passions? I know it feels great.  Let’s get going ladies and gentlemen, show me what you got…I know you got some secret passion or gift. Get out there and show the world what you are made of.


MARRIAGE | 3 Reasons You May Be Feeling Lonely In Your Marriage


Loneliness can be defined as a yearning for interaction or connection. Do you know its possible to be lonely while in a marriage? It sounds contradictory but it happens way more often than we know. There are individuals who are surrounded by loving, doting faithful significant others and still feel the heart pains of loneliness.

Here are some reasons you may be feeling lonely within a marriage

1. Obligation
Women will often enter a relationship out of obligation rather then love. There is a weight of responsibility to keep the charade going for family, church, work, or certain social circles.

What you can do about it:

A. Do not marry somebody out of obligation.
Marriage is hard enough on its own and having only 1 side that’s all in isn’t worth it.

B. If you are already in a marriage you didn’t intend to be in, ask God for help.
Jesus has a way of stepping in the gap when it comes to marriage. Instead of feeling obligated, make an effort to CHOOSE your husband. Another idea is taking the time to write down everything you love about him and everything you hate. Purpose to love both lists because that is who he is. Set out to love him simply for being your husband. Choose him regardless of any outside influence.

2. Baggage
Sometimes women haven’t totally dealt with the baggage and are still holding on to  old feelings for an ex. If this is the case, the loneliness comes from not being open enough to be truly connected in the relationship you are currently in. It’s like having one foot in and one foot out.

What you can do about it:

Put down the bags!
If you are holding on to baggage in lieu of your husband, you are in essence in a relationship with the bags. Connect with him by being brutally honest about the feelings. Let him know that sometimes you feel burdened by your past. You would be surprised that a Godly husband will set out to help in any way he can. Seeing a professional to assist with your emotional baggage isn’t a bad idea either!
3. Conflict
If either partner doesn’t know how to argue and resolve arguments in a healthy way, it can lead to feelings of being misunderstood, abandoned, or isolated.  The argument never gets resolved and becomes an elephant in the room.

What you can do about it:

Arguments are not the end of the world. Being able to argue fairly and express yourself in a way that makes you feel heard and is healthy is the goal. When your husband voices an opinion, be open to hearing what he has to say and urge him to do the same. Resolve arguments as quickly as possible and learn to not bring it back up after the hatchet has been buried. 

 There is a verse found in Psalms 147: 3 that says, “He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” Our God wants to heal your heart and mend broken marriages. Next time you are on your knees, ask God to mend your broken heart. You don’t have to feel lonely especially with a God who thrives on keeping marriages together


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