On The Sofa With Sumetra Reed


Let’s Talk A Little About Sumetra:  My name is Sumetra Reed (aka Natural Metra).  I was born and raised in Dallas, TX and I have lived in Dallas all my life.  Those who know me can tell you that I am all about family, church and of course natural hair.  I’m the type of person that if I do something, I like to do it with excellence (some call that a perfectionist LOL).

Let’s Talk Family & Church:  Growing up in church, I witnessed all kinds of hurt, disappointment, joy and excitement.  My father was a pastor and the greatest man I knew.  He passed away over a year ago.  When someone you are close to, whom you love and admire passes away un-expectantly, especially after you’ve prayed for God to heal them, it’s easy to lose faith and question God.  Though it hurts, I am at peace with God’s will.  My dad always taught us that we all have to go down the road of death and when it’s his time, he never wanted us to be sad but rejoice in knowing that he was saved and that he loved God.  So what happened to our church?  My mother stepped up to the plate.  She is now pastoring the church.  My mother is such a strong woman of God.  Not many woman can go through what she has gone through and still be on fire for God.  Our doors never closed and we never missed a service.  My husband is now assistant pastor and he will be pastoring the church in the near future.  That’s another story that I can’t wait to share.  I have two sisters and a brother and we all serve in ministry together which also helps us to stay strong.


Let’s Talk Love: My husband and I have been married for over 10 years now.  It’s amazing!  I never expected that I would one day call Mike my husband.  Honestly, we didn’t get along well at all when we first met.  He is very analytical and I am an expressionist so for those who know about personality types, those two don’t mix well.  God had a plan for us.  I remember being in a relationship that was HORRIBLE and the only person I could talk to was Mike.  He was there for me and never judged me.  That was something that I needed.  We became close friends and talked literally every day.  He asked my parents’ permission to marry me and proposed June 11, 2002 and we were married a year later!  I love to share our story because we started our relationship on a godly foundation.  We weren’t intimate with each other until we were married.  We loved one another and loved God too much to not do things the right way.  I truly believe that we have a stronger marriage and friendship because we are building our marriage on a solid foundation. We don't have children yet and we are believing God to bless us with our little miracle soon. I wouldn't mind having twins but I'm sure my husband would have a different opinion on that one LOL


Let’s Talk Natural Hair:  Back in 2009, I started to realize that my edges were getting thin and my hair didn’t feel as thick and full as it used to.  Due to medical reasons, I was losing my hair.  My younger sister was natural and I noticed how thick and healthy her hair was.  So being a person who LOVES challenges, I decided to see how long I could go without putting a relaxer on my hair (I didn't know I was "transitioning").  I never knew about a natural hair community and didn’t even know there were natural hair bloggers and vloggers on YouTube.  I knew NOTHING.  Ten months later in August of 2010, I decided to cut off my relaxed ends (later finding out it was called a "big chop" LOL).  I was 100% natural and had no clue what to do with my hair.  So I reached out to high school friends and family who were natural and asked for help.  They recommended products and things for me to try.  I HATED MY HAIR.  When I would do what they suggested, my hair didn’t look like their hair.  I liked the thickness of my hair so I knew I would never go back to a perm so I just started trying different things.  My husband loved my short fro but even he questioned me on how long I was planning on “being natural”.  I ran across Cantu Shea Butter and it was love at first use.  My hair responded very well.  Then I started attempting twist outs but because my hair is not really kinky, the twists would unravel.  I couldn’t do corn rows so I tried flat twisting.  Flat Twist Outs quickly became my staple style.  The nickname that I have been given is “Flat Twist Out Queen” LOL.  I love it.   I have been natural for 3 years now.   I've learned that my hair is different and unique.  It won’t look like everyone’s hair. Funny thing is if I straighten my hair, my husband doesn’t like it.  He likes me with big hair. He calls me his sunshine when I wear my hair big and full; he says my hair looks like the sun!


Who knew that I would start doing hair tutorials and inspiring others through YouTube, Facebook and Instagram.  It’s been a great journey and there is no way I’m going back to a relaxer.   Here are a few things about my regimen: 
1.       I only use heat 2 – 3 times a year to minimize heat damage. 
2.       I love protective styles.  Low manipulation styles really help to retain length.
3.       I deep condition my hair 2 times a month or as needed. 
4.       I am not a product hoarder.  Once I found what worked, I stuck with it. 
5.       Here are my staple must have products - SHAMPOO: Hello Hydration by Herbal Essence or Shea Moisture’s Moisture Retention; CONDITIONER: Giovanni Smooth as Silk; LEAVE IN: Cantu Shea Butter Leave In; OIL/SEALANT: Raw Coconut Oil

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Thank you,
Sumetra Reed

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