Love & Relationships | Knowing When To Speak Up

December 22, 2014 | LOVE EMBRACE INSPIRE  | By Dominique Parks

How often have you been in a situation where you’d rather bite your tongue than speak up, just to avoid creating an argument?  You abstain your true response to a conversation just to keep the peace, rather than speak out about something you feel strongly about, or something you feel is either right or wrong.  You do this because you feel that giving your opinion will cause a confrontation.  It’s not healthy to bottle up your feelings.  Animosity will build and you will eventually explode, causing a bigger argument that may not have happened, had you been open in the beginning.  Most will choose the road to avoid conflict, but there are times when it can be detrimental to your relationship, and could lead to a bigger problem in the future.

There are those little incidents where we can hold back how we feel, because it’s not important or detrimental to the relationship, however, there are those times when the situation needs to be addressed.  For example, a common conversation that is brought up within many relationships is finances.  You should never bite your tongue on that topic.  Talk about it and discuss what needs to be done or changed.  Not discussing it could be damaging to your relationship, and possibly end it.  You know what topics are important within your relationship, so talk about them.  Our goal should be to strengthen our relationship, not weaken it.

Discussing your feelings will not only strengthen your bond, but also help build trust.  It will give you and your partner a safe place to vent your thoughts, without the worry of judgment or backlash.  Laying all your cards on the table is not being sensitive or vulnerable to a situation, it’s speaking up about how you feel.  After all, who wants to be with someone who never has his or her own viewpoint or opinion?  That will not only make the relationship boring, but will eventually get frustrating.  Be with someone who stimulates your mind, and wants to grow with you instead of standing in the same place.  Believe it or not, it’s healthy to have a little argument every now and then, as long as it’s in the form of a healthy conversation.  It will not only help build your relationship, but create a platform where you can openly communicate about anything.

Not everyone is going to think the same way you do, and that’s all right.  We are all entitled to our own opinion.  Don’t settle for someone else’s thoughts.  If you have a different viewpoint, find your backbone and state it!  It’s better to talk about it now rather than yell about it later.  

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