FROM MOTHER TO BEST FRIEND: The Stages of an Unbreakable Bond


 As Mother’s Day approaches, I can’t help but think about my mom and all the sacrifices she’s made, everything that she has done and continues to do for me.  What I think about the most now, and every year around this time, is how the relationship between my mother and I has changed so much from my childhood to my teenage years to now as an adult.  As I think, I can’t help but laugh at how funny some things in life can be.  It’s amazing how some things work out, isn't it?  As an adult, your mom isn't just your mother anymore.  It’s crazy to think that the woman you once couldn't stand living under the same roof with has become your best friend.

Take a minute to reflect on how your own relationship with your mother has changed over the course of your life.  As a child she was your mommy, the woman you admired the most and looked up to for everything, the fixer, your protector and the woman you absolutely adored.  Then you became a teenager and all of that changed.  She became ‘mom’ instead of ‘mommy’.  She was the person who got on your nerves and misunderstood you the most, the person who you couldn’t stand talking to for more than five minutes because you felt she didn't know what she was talking about and the person you thought was so cruel for putting you on punishment.  Fast-forward 10-15 years.  As mature adult women we can now sit back with our mother’s, reminisce and laugh about those times, because we finally understand her reasoning for everything, and we realize all the sacrifices she made.

I’m not quite sure when it happens, but there comes a point in every young woman’s life when she realizes that mom was right all along.  Maybe it happens in your early to mid twenties.  You begin to think back on all the times your mother told you to do something, or even worse, wouldn’t allow you to go somewhere you really wanted to go.  We all remember those famous lines, “I’m only doing what’s best for you” and “You’re going to thank me for this one day.”  That surely was a day we never thought would come.  I can personally remember being so angry with my mom on so many occasions as a teen, only to look back at these reasons now and realize they were so trivial.  At this point, there is nothing that can break the bond my mother and I share.

On behalf of all the daughters out there, I’d like to say thank you to all the mothers for everything you have done and everything you continue to do for us.  We may not have understood your reasoning for things back then, but we do now and we will forever be appreciative for it.   Without your love, guidance and support we would not be the women we are today.   We love you and we thank you. 

If you are fortunate enough to still have your mother, tell her how you feel while you still have the opportunity to do so.  Let her know how grateful you are to have her and don’t let a day go by without telling her how much you love her.  I’m going to call my mom right now. 


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